I%26#039;m only 14, and recently, someone put an idea into my head about changing price tags at a store here in canada, called winners. It%26#039;s been a boring so summer so me and my friend went to winners, and I just did it for the thrill. My friend wasn%26#039;t even involved with any of it really, but at the checkout, the security gard came and brought us in. Anyways, after all that, we weren%26#039;t charged really, and were left with a warning, but we did have to pay a fine. It was from 5 dollars to 1 dollar, and i had the money, i just did it for the thrill, i know what i did was wrong, it was a fraud, and i%26#039;m never going to do it again. I reacted really calmly to the situation, because crying won%26#039;t get me any sympathy. But now, i feel really bad, they made a scene, and it was a winners next to my house, and i%26#039;m scared to go outside now. it%26#039;s been 2-3 days since the incident, and i feel like crap, i%26#039;m just lying in bed all day,eating and watching japanese dramas. i think maybe if i reacted differently, maybe i wouldn%26#039;t feel like this right now? I don%26#039;t know what to do, i know i will never do it again, but i don%26#039;t know how to deal with this unexplanable feeling?|||We all do stupid things. The best thing you can do is realize you made a mistake, what%26#039;s done is done, and move on.
I%26#039;ve most certainly did things I thought were stupid. Just letting it go and knowing you learned a lesson helps.|||Talk to your parents about it.
You were just being kids. Kids will be kids.
That%26#039;s not that bad of a thing anyway, so dont worry about it
Its a lesson learned and that%26#039;s all that matters.|||You know what? Having feelings of remorse for what you did is enough. There are so many people out there that do terrible things and don%26#039;t care. It was a stupid teenage prank and no one was hurt. Don%26#039;t stay locked in your house because of that. You would be surprised how fast people move on to the next drama that%26#039;s going on around them. And you%26#039;re not a bad person.|||**** them
just start going out again|||The thing with guilt is that it is a redundant emotion - in that by the time you feel it, it has already served it%26#039;s purpose - that of your learning a lesson form what you did.
So, taking in to account what you have said -
%26quot; i know what i did was wrong, it was a fraud, and i%26#039;m never going to do it again%26quot;
With that being true you can let it go, now .... and feel comfortable again - proud in the knowledge that you have learnt a life-lesson and matured mentally as a result.
Many people have to learn such things in a far tougher way - with bigger consequences - so you can be happy that you achieved the same outcome with relatively little effort!!|||Realise, and accept that you, just like the rest of us, are only human, and therefore, fallible. We all make mistakes; do, or omit to do certain things, but the idea is to learn from them, and resolve not to make the same one again. Once having done this, it can be helpful to repeat an affirmation to yourself along the following lines, at least 3 times: %26quot;I know I made a mistake in ... ... and there are some things which can%26#039;t be undone, no matter how much I regret it, so I firmly resolve to learn from this, and choose to forgive myself now, and move on%26quot;.
Negative thoughts often precede negative emotions. Accordingly, it%26#039;s important to regularly monitor, and deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, images, impulses, or emotions, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately. Technique For Re-Programming Negative Thoughts: When you notice something negative, such as: %26quot;I can%26#039;t do this/ am never going to get over this!%26quot; or: %26quot;Why am I always so useless/such a loser?%26quot; or even an image, emotion, or a memory; recognise that it is being generated from the negative part of your mind.
After identifying and labelling it, visualise a large, red, flashing, %26quot;STOP!%26quot; sign, and/or possibly a stern faced person wagging an index finger at you in a negative manner, then say to yourself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: %26quot;I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!%26quot; You may want to use either: %26quot;ruse%26quot;, %26quot;ploy%26quot;, %26quot;game%26quot;, or %26quot;trick%26quot;. In the case of an image, visualise a large %26quot;STOP%26quot; sign, or your preferred version.
Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don%26#039;t regard it as being strictly necessary. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method.
Read: Escaping Toxic Guilt: Five Proven Steps to Free Yourself from Guilt for Good! by Susan Carrell
Good-Bye to Guilt: Releasing Fear Through Forgiveness by Gerald G. Jampolsky
Stop Running Away: Confront the Guilt, Regret and Remorse That Haunt You by Timothy M. Wise
from your bookstore or enter %26quot;guilt%26quot; in the searchbar at Amazon.com for more media.
Hypnosis is merely a heightened state of suggestibility, in which you are better able to communicate with your subconscious mind. 85% of people are suggestible, to some degree, so you could either preferably seek professional hypnotherapy. If unavailable, hypnosisdownloads.com has one about overcoming guilt. Another thing you can do is to get up, go outside, and stare at the place from across the road until you are desensitised to the emotion.
